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Stepping out of Comparison: Developing Psychological Flexibility Around Self-View (DD1Z25)

Dana DePalma, MA, MFT and Matthew Brensilver, PhD

March 30, 2025

Online Program Online

10:00 am Mar 30 - 4:00 pm Mar 31, 2025 PST

Date and Time Details:
Saturday, March 30, 2025
10:00am - 4:00pm US Pacific Time

Online via Zoom

Contact: Spirit Rock Registration
registration@spiritrock.org

  • Benefactor. – $200.00
  • Sustainer. – $120.00
  • Basic. – $95.00
  • Mudita/Karuna Scholarship Rate. – $45.00
  • BIPOC Scholarship Rate. – $45.00

Cancellation Policy - Online: Drop-ins, Daylongs, Multiday Programs (1-3 days), Family Programs/Series, CEC fees:

  • NO REFUNDS
  • Open Credit, or Donation to Spirit Rock = if cancel by midnight, the day prior to program start (Pacific Time)
  • No Open Credit = if cancel day of the program, or beyond

Please only register for one of the two formats: On-Land or Online.

Registration closes at 8:00am (Pacific Time) on March 30, 2025. A waiting list will be created if the program fills early. A recording* will be available following the program. Continuing Education Credits? (see details below).


Program to be held on the land and online!

Description:
We are conditioned to measure ourselves against others and we often define ourselves through comparison. These movements of our mind are innocent, but they bind us to the pain of arrogance, self-hatred, and envy. The Buddha said this entire realm of comparison and measurement arises from suffering and compounds that suffering.

During our day of practice, we’ll explore the costs of measurement and the alternatives to it. In awareness, we become completely at ease with imperfection and relax the habits of measurement that we ordinarily use to substantiate ourselves and our stories. The “measureless” heart qualities—lovingkindness, compassion, joy, and equanimity—infuse the places of measurement with relaxation and love.

This retreat will include guided and silent meditation practice, Dharma reflections, and time for dialogue. All are welcome.

Sliding Scale: Our sliding scale options for this program include financial support for our teachers. Please consider paying at the highest rate that you can afford: your generosity supports teachers as well as Spirit Rock and your fellow practitioners who need to pay less.

On-Land Sliding Scale: (DD1D25)**
Benefactor – $310
Sustainer – $235
Basic – $140
Scholarship Rate (BIPOC, M/K) – $70
**Volunteer/Work Exchange opportunities, which include full or partial Scholarships, may be available for the in-person program. For more information, please contact the Volunteer Coordinator at volunteering@spiritrock.org.

Online Sliding Scale: (DD1Z25)***
Benefactor – $200
Sustainer – $120
Basic – $95
Scholarship Rate (BIPOC, M/K) – $45
***Online Program: All are welcome! No one will be turned away for lack of funds as space allows. For more information, please email Registration@spiritrock.org.

 


*Important Notes:

Access to Recording

  • A recording will be available for all participants (on-land & online) following the program in approximately 10 days. You will have ~90 days from the original program date to view the recording.

On-Land Attendees

  • The on-land program will take place in the Community Meditation Center (CMC) in the Great Hall.
  • Bring a lunch and a water bottle. Lunch is not provided.
  • This is NOT a residential retreat. Overnight accommodations are not provided.

COVID Safety Protocols for non-residential programs: details here.

Cancellation Policy for On-Land: Daylongs, Multiday Programs (1-3 days), Family Programs, CEC fees:

  • NO REFUNDS.
  • Open Credit or Donation to Spirit Rock = cancel 2 or more business days prior to program (Pacific Time)
  • No Open Credit = cancel less than 2 business days prior

Continuing Education (CE) credit available:
This program offers 5 CE credits for $50 for psychologists and California-licensed MFTs, LCSWs, LEPs, and LPCCs. Please review our Continuing Education Credit information page to determine if your association or board will accept credits offered by Spirit Rock.***

Teachings are appropriate for health care professionals as well as the general public. This program is relevant to healthcare providers, as it offers tools to reduce burnout and emotional fatigue by helping practitioners recognize and release patterns of self-comparison and judgment. By cultivating mindfulness and the qualities of compassion, joy, and equanimity, providers can foster greater emotional resilience and presence in their interactions with patients. Additionally, this approach enhances the ability to hold space for imperfection, both in themselves and others, ultimately supporting more compassionate and sustainable care delivery. When healthcare providers share these mindfulness and compassion-based practices with their patients or clients, it empowers individuals to cultivate self-compassion, reduce self-judgment, and manage stress more effectively. Patients can develop greater emotional resilience, which supports their overall well-being and promotes a more collaborative and healing therapeutic relationship. This shared practice fosters a holistic approach to health, where both provider and patient engage in mindful awareness and compassionate care.

Learning Objectives for participating health care professionals-
At the end of the program you will be better able to:

  • Describe the psychological and emotional impacts of self-measurement and comparison, including the roles of arrogance, self-hatred, and envy, in perpetuating suffering as outlined in Buddhist teachings;
  • Describe the role of awareness in reducing attachment to perfection and in cultivating acceptance of imperfection, promoting a more relaxed and compassionate attitude toward oneself and others;
  • Assess how mindfulness practices can help practitioners become more attuned to the costs of measurement and utilize alternative ways of relating to themselves and their experiences;
  • Apply mindfulness-based strategies to infuse compassion and relaxation into areas of self-measurement and comparison, thereby fostering emotional resilience and well-being.

Continuing Education content level: Introductory

***Please note:

  • For full Provider information, and additional CEC information, including attendance requirements, cancellation, and grievance policies, please visit our Continuing Education Credit information page.
  • For those with a different license than listed above, or with a license from a different board or association than listed on our CEC info page, please contact your licensing board or association directly to request pre-approval/acceptance of CE credits offered at Spirit Rock. Spirit Rock does not confirm the applicability of credit for those with licenses different than those listed.
  • Credit is awarded for instructional time only and does not include extended silent meditation, if offered.
  • Potential Conflict of Interest Statement: This instructor may have authored publications relevant to the subjects covered in this course. The instructor might reference these publications during the course, and they may receive financial compensation if these publications are purchased.

About the Teachers

Dana DePalma, MA, MFT

Dana DePalma teaches Insight Meditation retreats at Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Northern California and online through Dharma Ground, an organization she co-founded. She specializes in teaching Nine Bodies Insight, a method of practice which utilizes specific teachings on the structure of consciousness to balance, refine, and empower one’s Insight Meditation practice. Dana began her […]

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Matthew Brensilver, PhD

Matthew Brensilver teaches at the Insight Retreat Center, Spirit Rock and Insight Meditation Society. He was previously program director for Mindful Schools and for more than a decade, was a core teacher at Against the Stream Buddhist Meditation Society. Matthew worked as a clinical social worker, serving severely and persistently mentally ill adults. He subsequently […]

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